Remember that this is new news to your partner, and it may take him or her some time to adjust.
It’s a great idea to have a pamphlet or book from ASHA’s library to give them to read, as well. “Safer Sex” precautions: What barriers do you want to use?
Birth control: Are you currently using birth control? What kind of sexual activities are you willing to enjoy without barriers?
’ Yet when it comes to sex many of us assume that we know what our partner wants, or we clam up instead of giving feedback.” (6th ed.) It is perfectly okay to keep some things private, especially fantasies that you enjoy on your own and do not care to share with someone else.But in any relationship, whether for one night or many years, there are things about which you do need to communicate.People sometimes think that if their partner really loved them or cared about them the other person would do exactly what they wanted. No two people want the same things, have the same fantasies, or want to be touched in the same ways. How many sexual partners have you had since your last round of testing? The more positive, honest, and straight-forward you can be, the more positively your partner will hear you.Remember that whether you feel physical pleasure in response to something a partner does is not an indicator of their “skill” as a lover. STI status: When were you last tested for STIs, and what were the results? Having an STI does not mean the end of a good sex life, but if you feel ashamed of your STI your partner will likely pick up on this.What a previous partner liked may not be what gets you off, since each of us is different. Gather as much factual information as you can about both your STI(s), including transmission, prevention, treatment, and the actual physical effects of the infection.
Type of relationship that you want: Committed or non-committed? Allow them to ask you questions, and do your best to answer them all honestly and without getting defensive.