If you were single, and over him, we would be talking about getting together.
Second, if she hasn’t had the balls to leave her man for you yet, it ain’t gonna happen.
And if she does, and you end up dating, will you trust her knowing that she left her previous boyfriend for you?
That’s why Winfred said, and I quote, “she’s got a boyfriend and he sucks.” But you don’t know that for sure, do you? She’s got Winfred when her boyfriend doesn’t treat her well. First off, if you’re hanging out, and you like her, you’re not going to be meeting anyone else.
In case you missed it, she’s not dating you: she’s dating someone else.As a ground rule, if a woman is seeing someone else, you don’t owe her anything.Or will you constantly be worried that when things get rocky, she may leave you for the next Mr Nice Guy with a shoulder to cry on? Look her in the eyes, and say this: ‘I’m not your boyfriend. I’m not waiting around for you to decide that maybe you’re going to break up with him for me.I’m worth more than that, and I deserve better than to be your backup plan. She’s got a boyfriend and he sucks, and she likes me a lot. Like an idiot, I might have just proved her right, because I got quite drunk at a party we were both at, and hooked up with another girl at that party.
She then got mad at me for hooking up with someone else, even though we’re not dating. I turned it into a blog post, because I know a lot of geeks end up in a similar situation.