“Women like sex too,” says Moore, succinctly summing up the six years since her husband’s cheating left the then-37-year-old mother of three single, confused, and curious about where her carnal independence might lead her.
Now 43 and still a doting mom, Moore is almost cringing to know that her sexual curiosity — a journey that led her from a secret Calgary sex club to a wider world of bondage and submission — is about to become a movie.
And through her own company and website, iamdivorcednotdead.com, Moore has offered endless advice and insights on dating after divorce, appearing on a multitude of websites around North America.
“I’m well aware I could easily become headline news on the playground — even women who claim to be open minded and liberated when it comes to sex and dating, if they can’t relate, they can be so judgemental.” The days of Moore keeping her double life quiet may soon be ending, with Lifetime channel in the U. turning the book into a movie, starring Ashley Jones as Moore — and there are already talks of sequels. Her book, “The Secret Sex Life of a Single Mom” might have been the end of it, if it hadn’t gone on to get stellar ratings and reviews comparing it to the Shades of Grey phenomenon.
“I have heard this book getting compared to ‘50 shades of Grey’ and I say it’s hotter without being too hardcore and with much better writing! Moore’s dating experiences took on a life of their own, and soon, the former stay-at-home mom became a bit of a guru of relationships.
In the past six years, she’s co-founded a magazine for divorced women, and become a relationship coach under the partnership of Dr.
John Gray, the writer of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus.
“The book was strictly a cathartic experience, and I didn’t even know I could do it — I’d never written a book before,” said Moore.
But with friends pressuring her to publish, Moore found an agent and shopped the manuscript around.
“It was like leading a double life,” says Moore, of her devotion to being a good mother and active member of the community, while spending her personal time exploring dating and sexuality.
She never really planned to talk about her sex life publicly, but after the university-trained journalist started writing her experiences down, friends told her the titillating and liberating stories were dynamite, and helpful. “I never thought I’d be exposing my dating or sex life to the world — but my girlfriends told me, ‘your experiences in dating are so interesting and empowering for women.’” For someone with a passion for writing, the book was really a glorified diary meant to offer perspective and help Moore during a time of intense change.
It’s not as if she was organizing orgies, while other mothers in her neighbourhood were planning rides to soccer games or after-school snacks.
But what Calgarian Delaine Moore did do was openly explore her sexuality, turning post-divorce turmoil into the kind of sensual adventure most women only read about in books like Fifty Shades of Grey.