Asking a girl out on a date is perhaps the most important scenario you’ll want to master.If you master this, she could become the greatest thing to ever cross into your TV-watching, sports-obsessed, beer-drinking, repetitive-night-on-the-town-with-the-guys, never-ending bachelor lifestyle.The one of your dreams could be sitting right next to you. I’m pretty sure you’re not even aware of what you’re doing or why it bothers me. Of course I’m “interested” in “hanging out” “sometime.” That is why I am talking to you. I do get asked on dates by men, actually, and it works amazingly well. I know whether to have cash on hand to get home or to ask someone to pick me up or to ask to stay at a friend’s place. And if I can do it — and I have done it — you can, too. If you’re dealing with any kind of psychological issues such as depression, anxiety, substance abuse or low self-esteem, please don’t proceed further and draw a lady in.It really isn’t fair to her and will only make your chances nil at best. The last thing any woman wants is a man with mental baggage, so think about this before approaching a woman for a date. Are there any medical conditions that could hinder your ability to date openly and freely?Women are looking for guys who they can dance, exercise and go on walks with. This will increase your chances of her saying yes when the time arrives to ask her out. These are things to discuss before popping the big question because you might find she isn’t your type at all. However, don’t go overboard by promising a trip to Aspen or tickets to a formal opera.And yes, sex will eventually become a huge issue if you aren’t up to par. You don’t have to live at the gym, but at least become healthy and do what you can to make yourself as attractive as possible. If you’re wanting to ask a girl out in a public place, at work, school or in a social setting with friends, don’t rush. Be subtle at first, and ask her to do something based on information she’s given you so far.
In other words, are you in a place mentally that supports a healthy relationship?If she’s sitting at a table, around a bonfire on the beach or inside a local bar, look for her to acknowledge you with slight eye contact, a subtle smile or even a turn in your direction. Give it a few minutes, and if she continues, then congratulations — you’re on the right path. She could just be a friendly person, which is why you shouldn’t run across the room like a wild steer. First, I have some ground rules as you make your approach: keep your chin up and maintain eye contact with her, gaze forward and not to the side, keep your shoulders back and squared with chest high and always remain focused on her. These are great indicators she’s happy you’ve shown her interest. For example, if she likes being outside and loves barbecue, suggest dinner overlooking a lake where the best ribs in town are served.Let the moments linger for a few, and if she keeps things going, it’s time to talk etiquette and game. A girl doesn’t ever want to feel like she’s second place. After all, a woman’s smile, eyes and body movements can reveal a lot about her feelings. Just doing this will tell her you’re a good listener and you want to please her.First, are you ready mentally and physically to proceed? Have you been lucky enough to make positive contact, maybe even speak with her casually like at work or in a group setting with friends? Humor is a great ice breaker, and if you can make a woman laugh, you’re halfway home. Again, women love a guy who sees things lightheartedly. Every scenario is different when it comes to asking a girl for a date, but almost always using the information above and some natural principles will help your chances when the situation arises.Just don’t try being the next Robin Williams or Jerry Lewis — constant jokes can become annoying. Remember women everywhere are wanting you to ask them out, so don’t be shy.
It’s come up a couple of times recently and it’s gotten so irritating that I finally have to say something about it. I have been emailing, text messaging, IMing, and even talking on the phone. Generally speaking, I think men are intimidated by women who do the pursuing/asking out, though, so I do it on a case-by-case basis. There’s a 99.097 percent chance I am going to say “yes.” Please, just ask me out on a freaking date.