That can seem like a long time to “move on,” especially when you are 100 percent positive that you and your spouse won’t reunite.I’d encourage you to use the time between your separation and your divorce to heal emotionally from your marriage.Often, discussions about the ramifications of divorce for men are about the financial hit that men take in the form of alimony and child support.Too little is said about the emotional toll it takes as well.I know that’s probably not what you want to hear, especially if you’re lonely right now.That outlook may seem strict, especially for people who live in, say, North Carolina, which requires one year of separation before allowing a couple to file for even a no-fault divorce; Connecticut, which requires an 18-month waiting period before allowing a couple to file; or even Maryland, which requires a one-year wait.But maybe that’s not you, and you’re doing just fine, twiddling your thumbs while you wait for the paperwork to officially end your marriage.
One study found that men were six times more likely to be depressed after a separation or divorce than were men who remained married.
“Men’s social lives largely revolve around their spouses and family, and when that is disrupted, it can leave men more isolated and prone to depression,” Daniel Buccino, an assistant professor in the Johns Hopkins Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Science, explained to Divorce360
If this sounds like what you’re experiencing, consider seeking a counselor who can help you work through your feelings, rather than a girlfriend to fill your newfound void.
It may also be helpful for you to locate a divorce support group and to begin socializing in group settings so that you can get some of the personal interaction you may be missing.
Is it unfair or wrong to show an interest in other women while you are waiting for the final decree?
” The rule of thumb is that you don’t date until your divorce is final.