Olivia was really sad so I took her to group sessions at the charity Child Bereavement UK.
It was heartbreaking to hear her say her daddy had died, but it helped her.
Full-time mum Lucy Borthwick-Harriss, 41, from near Aylesbury, Bucks, lost her husband Sacha Borthwick, leaving her with Olivia, four. It was a shock but Sacha was very strong-minded and a year on, he’d beaten it.
Just months later he was diagnosed with aggressive lymphoma.
After 10 fantastic years we married and had Olivia.
Starting a relationship was a huge step, so we took it slowly. After putting the kids to bed there were lots of tears, then I went to bed alone with all that time to think.When the end came in July 2007, I walked from the hospital feeling outraged at how unfair life was.I remember little of the funeral – nature’s way of softening the blow.Clive felt more guilt as Sacha’s loss was his gain. It wasn’t replacing someone but establishing a new norm. We married in April 2012 with Sacha’s brother Charlie doing my father-of-the-bride speech. The Sacha Borthwick Foundation: uk ; The Child Bereavement Charity uk Nurse Paula Reid-Smart, 38, from near Rayleigh, Essex, lost husband Gary Reid, leaving her to look after their children Bethany, seven, and Joshua, five. I’d never have imagined I could meet someone else so soon after losing Gary. After surgery, he started chemotherapy and radiotherapy and after two years his scans were clear. I knew I had to pick myself up and in the February, I went along to Widowed Young Support, a support group run by a national charity Care for the Family.Olivia was my big concern, but she really took to him and his daughter Isabelle, seven. At the start of 2008, I returned to work in an admin role.
I didn’t feel guilty as Sacha wanted me to find someone else. But we’ll never forget Sacha and he’ll always be a big part of Olivia’s life. But he’d been born with neurofibromatosis, where benign tumours would grow throughout his body, and in 2005 a tumour in his pelvis turned out to be malignant. But then I woke one day thinking was this really it? Gary was never coming back and my kids would never have their dad.