“Some people think that's dangerous, I think it's a good thing – I would be really worried if we couldn't also find love online.
Hegmann agrees that there's a stereotype that access to online dating makes people less likely to work through their problems or settle on any one person, but argues that it's false.
“It's all about finding structures and new ways to break those barriers.” One of the things you might be doing wrong is simply not talking to the people you'd like to get to know.
“Most singles say, I'm single because I'm too shy and waiting for the other side to make the first move,” Hegmann said. They'll be grateful and honour the fact that you took a risk.” In the study, 36 percent of German men said that shyness had had a role in keeping them single – much higher than the EU average of 27 percent. Don't worry about technology stealing your love away “Dating is getting a bit different now because we are online 24/7,” Hegmann said.
“There isn't a huge difference among European countries, although the cliché is that northern countries are more pragmatic and the southern countries more romantic,” Hegmann said.
That's not to say that there aren't a few intercultural differences.
As well as writing more than a dozen books on love and relationships, including the acclaimed “The Dream Prince Trap - covering the danger of searching for the perfect partner” - Hegmann is also a relationship counsellor for singles and couples.
We asked him about the most important things to look out for for expats dipping a toe into the German dating waters. Don't get hung up on cultural differences Your experience of dating is not going to be wildly different from one country to another — especiallz in Europe.
A 2008 survey of European singles for dating website Parship found that Germans tended to be the most experienced with serious relationships, uninterested in marriage and pessimistic about finding a new partner soon. If what you're doing isn't working, change it!
“If you're looking for love for three or four years, or you never had a relationship lasting longer than six months, then probably you're doing something – maybe not wrong, but maybe not right for you,” Hegmann says.