It was a vow to God and your spouse, not to man, government, or based on circumstance.I don’t just speak from a theoretical position concerning the issues that surround divorce and remarriage, but I speak from experience as well.I have made the mistakes of trying to take shortcuts and they ended up just being another trip around the mountain spinning my wheels.So as I write this article, I just want to encourage you to take a deep breath, quiet your heart and emotions and listen to the still small voice of the Lord concerning this issue.Whether you call it dating, courting, or as I sometimes do, “Russian Roulette”, the fact remains that people date in order to find a prospective mate.Because it has this purpose, then it only goes to reason that both parties must be free to marry in order to date.Someone who is still married, even if they are separated, is not free to marry.
If they will not value the sanctity of marriage even though their own marriage may be failing, then they will not value the sanctity of marriage in their next marriage.
Although a person may have emotionally detached from their marriage, and even if they are just waiting for the divorce to be final, the fact remains that it is not final and that finality is very important as I will get into later in this article.
Dating while separated is extremely unwise at best, (assuming there is no sexual involvement going on, including kissing and hand holding), and emotional adultery at worse.
You are not keeping your vow to God to give yourself only to your spouse.
I was a single Pastor for 13 years and I sometimes get asked questions that other Pastors are not asked simply because they think that my former marital status will change my perspective on the issue.
What they don’t realize is that I am a pastor that has made more than his fair share of mistakes in my life.