Mike wasn't the first guy to be put off by my drinking.
I was clingy and wanted to spend every second with him. He said I was a "fire" and was "consuming" him, and asked me not to contact him.
All of them ended things with me after the second or third time they saw me sh*tfaced.
There was never a conversation about why they stopped getting back to me. booty calls that culminated in me just passing out on their beds. I was lonely, and I wondered if anyone would ever really love me.
"No major changes in the first year" is a common suggestion for newcomers in AA.
It means holding off on moving, changing jobs, starting a relationship, etc. If these things don't work out -- or even if they do -- change can drive people to drink or use again.