Some tell-tale signs of this, according to Urasek: "If he's never (or rarely) been in a relationship; chronically seeks "casual sex" or "short-term dating;" moves around a ton and never seems to settle in one place for more than a year; has no interest in marriage, kids, or home ownership; or has an annoying young-person job at a flashy tech startup, beware." This scenario, unfortunately, probably sounds all too familiar: You're seeing someone new, and things go great when you're together, but in the days in between dates, he or she totally vanishes — no calls, no texts, no Snapchats.This isn't quite the same as ghosting, because he or she will come back, but only when they want to "hang out" again.She said she was even offered a reality TV show, but settled for a book deal, and we're so lucky she did: Popular is a hilarious collection of her craziest online dating anecdotes and time-tested wisdom. Despite her "popularity," Urasek feels just like any other online dater, and has had more than her fair share of awful experiences. Talking about an ex on a first date (or, you know, ever) is possibly the most obvious red flag ever.Per her book, we're offered a glimpse into the darker side of online dating, and, for those of us who've been in her shoes, it's refreshingly relatable to know that other women deal with the same B. Here are seven red flags that she's come to associate with negative results (and I've thrown in some of my own, too). As Urasek says, "Nobody wants to hear intimate details about a guy's sordid romantic past," and mentioning an ex on your profile or talking about her (or, worse, them) on a date basically screams "I'm not over it!
Because of the anonymity we're afforded online, tons of guys (and girls!
) take it upon themselves to act like total d-bags, because there aren't any real-world consequences for, say, telling a girl on Tinder she has "nice side boob" instead of just saying "hi" like a respectful, functioning human.
As such, there are many online dating red flags to watch out for, and author Lauren Urasek outlines the most common in her new book, Popular.
" If the past is truly the past, leave it there — your date will thank you for it.
Reading Urasek's spot-on description of the supposedly "adult men" in places like NYC and LA was very validating — I've met men online of all ages, and they *always* seem to have an issue with commitment.
Sure, you could make excuses for them and how "busy" they are, but Urasek points out the bottom line: If someone isn't willing to put in the legwork and acknowledge your existence daily, chances are that he or she is only in it for the, ahem, physical benefits.