Here is a four-step guide for getting the job done: 1. People whose house needs remodeling commonly convince themselves that problems they can’t see don’t actually exist.
Consequently, they find any excuse to avoid the basement where water is seeping through the foundation, or the attic where squirrels have been carrying out renovations of their own. You’ll know when an area of your life is out of balance by how it makes you feel to examine it closely. Thankfully, the next phase of renovation is much more fun. Nothing is more satisfying than watching your vision take shape before your eyes.
If you suspect you fall into the latter category, fear not!They believe that ignorance is a key component of blissful denial. This means grabbing a clipboard and examining yourself with brutal honesty. The reason for turning this uncomfortable spotlight on yourself is simple: You can’t fix what you don’t acknowledge as a problem. This is not the time to get out the hammers and pry bars—that comes next. After the chaos, it’s fun to choose new paint colors, pick out fresh fixtures and furnishings, and find the perfect curtains. Make sure the answers are all uplifting, affirming, and life-giving. Well, you can’t expect someone else to care for you until you properly care for yourself.List all your sagging floors, leaking faucets, and peeling paint. Contrary to what your elementary school teachers told you, success at this point depends on your ability to daydream. Picture the new car, the clean apartment, the more fulfilling job. This phase is fun too, if undertaken with the right attitude. Clothes in your closet that tie you to an old self-image? Be ruthless and relentless until everything that stands between you and your vision is in a dumpster where it belongs—because you can’t replace what you don’t first clear away. The result is a place you can be truly proud of—and that others will want to visit as well. I am a 35-year-old showbusiness columnist and an American who lives in London.Where do you feel worn out and in need of improvement? If you saw need for improvement in step one, imagine in colorful detail what you want to be instead. If your physical appearance was on the list, visualize the new you, confident and complete. Fill in the desired details, like an architect’s conceptual drawing. Now that you know what needs to change in your life—and what the new you should look like—it’s time to make a (purposeful) mess of things. What will you put in place of your old habits and attitudes?