Of course, the Pew survey is less scientific than one might hope.But still, assuming that leadership gifts aren't doled out along gender lines, and that many women possess the key traits needed for top-notch leadership, what might this mean for Christian dating and marriage—in which many Christians believe the man should lead?Christ has bought you with a price and it is not an option to give away that blood bought heart to someone who doesn’t know and love your Lord.It will cripple your spiritual development, open up a host of temptations, stifle your prayer life, make regular church going difficult, and cause massive parenting conflict if you have children. Will he lead you in prayer, Bible reading, family devotions, and public worship? Is he going to make spiritual growth a priority or do other things come first? Is the guy you’re thinking of going to encourage you, love you, be kind to you, and seek to understand you, or will he want to go out with the guys when you’re having a hard night?Next to salvation there is no other long term event that will change so many areas of your life so deeply. If the guy is not a believer, you can stop right there.Here are just some of the ways that marriage will impact every aspect of living. You have no business yoking a redeemed soul with an unregenerate one, even if he seems open to change.
Students often ask me and my husband, Shawn, to walk them through premarital counseling or mentoring as part of a program offered at our university. Not all of the couples are engaged; some are merely contemplating marriage.
There were three kids sitting across from us at a meal: two guys and a girl. The other one was a college student with slightly cooler hair and no glasses. But while the computer geek was busy serving everyone at the meal, clearing plates and garbage, the college student got angry with the girl for a small accident and poured red juice over her leather jacket and white shirt.
A 2008 Pew Research Center survey found that, when it comes to the character traits deemed most important for political and corporate leadership, most people rate women superior to men, surpassing the latter in the areas of intelligence, honesty, creativity, compassion, and friendliness.
Out of the eight traits given, respondents ranked men as superior only in the trait of decision-making.
So to all the young, unmarried Christian girls out there, listen up: You might think that the way he treats you isn’t so bad. A husband should lead and cherish you, not need your counsel for basic personality or behavior issues.
Unless someone married is very frank with you, you can’t understand how much a husband will impact your entire life.