‘Forty is a huge cut-off point for a lot of men,’ Ruthie explains.
‘There was just one I met and we had a fantastic evening.
He is paunchy with grey chest hair and not especially rich.
Never married, she has a son James, now 13, by a man she parted from before her son was born.
Ruthie has been looking for a boyfriend for the past decade.
He plucked her from a surfeit of willing women, watching him like vultures before my friend “got” him.’This may be the case in some circles, but is it generally true?
‘I always had boyfriends when I was younger and assumed I would again after James was born,’ she says. These chats were fun — and sometimes quite flirty — but if I ever suggested we meet, the men would often back off, saying they were not looking for a relationship.’A dozen or so dates followed over the years, none of them quite right.
When she last registered with an online dating site she was 44 — and few men made contact.