It’s a story that occasionally makes people squirm but for the most part has been determined a “meet cute.” So it amazes me that while my boyfriend and I happily parrot our story of connecting over a carcass, there are online daters out there who are anxious to keep their process a secret.
RELATIONSHIPS: The danger of being JUST FRIENDSThere are, in my peer group of men and women in their late 20s through to mid-40s, a number of people who date online or met their significant other online and don’t want the world to know.
It's ok to tell your friends you've joined an online dating site. Their report also claims it’s a hit-or-miss effort while looking for love online.
This should be no surprise to singles and couples alike, as just about everyone knows someone who’s met their significant other or spouse online.
One thing's for sure, online dating is a hot-topic in the news this Valentine's Day.At the Super Bowl party I attended, two out of three couples met online; one on JDate, and another on Fitness Singles, both considered niche-dating sites.Professor Harry Reis, one of the five co-authors of the research study cautioned that comparing large numbers of potential dates might encourage a “shopping mentality.” I secretly wondered if this meant we’d have an “Add to Cart” option before checking out.This latest research also looks down upon the scientific matching and algorithms that many sites such as e Harmony have successfully woven into their profile sign up and matching process.Dating algorithms and scientific matching were the subject of a heated panel at the recent Internet Dating Conference in Miami, where Dr. Finkel, the study’s lead author and an associate professor of social psychology at Northwestern University, said there was no science behind the algorithms. Pepper Schwartz, professor of sociology at the University of Washington in Seattle, creator of the Personality Profiler for online dating site Perfect Match vehemently disagreed. The dating sites stood by their list of questions to help singles meet better matches, whether through math or science.
I have two very happily married friends who bristle if you mention that they met through a personal ad on Craigslist.