But for transgender individuals – those who have physically, mentally and/or emotionally made a transition from their born gender into the opposite gender or gender role – the online dating world is a minefield.The question of how much to disclose in one’s profile is a difficult one.The world of online dating is fraught with judgments, biases and dead ends.It’s difficult terrain for many people, who often feel it’s like an exercise in marketing. And after realizing that they can’t live without each other, boy and girl get engaged.But it wasn’t until the 32-year-old teacher nervously disclosed the truth over a drink that Rebecca fully understood the extent of that difference.
They may also withhold details that could drastically limit their chances.
“And most transpeople who aren't out wouldn't want to date someone who is openly looking to date a transperson.” There are also issues relating to sex and the need for medical intervention if pregnancy is something the couple wishes to explore down the road.
The sexuality of transgender people continues to be met with confusion, and their dating lives are rarely discussed.
“With few exceptions, people don't go to a dating site looking for a transperson,” Alex says.
It could be your prototypical 21st-century love story. Rebecca, a 34-year-old administrative assistant, immediately knew that Alex (not their real names) was different from other guys she’d dated.