We haven't met up again yet, but he keeps suggesting it — I don't think I can hold out for long.
I don't really want an affair, but I feel desperate at the thought of losing this excitement and returning to my dull life. You say you don’t want a love affair, but to all intents and purposes, you have already embarked upon one.
I love my husband and family, but I haven't worked since I married and often feel profoundly bored, as if life is passing me by. A couple of months ago, I got talking to a charming man who sat down beside me in the coffee shop at John Lewis.
We exchanged mobile numbers and since then we've been texting each other regularly. I don't really fancy this man, but I’m thrilled by the passion of our exchanges.
True, it may not be the fatal body blow that full-blown physical adultery inflicts, but that’s no reason to deceive yourself about the capacity this correspondence has to destroy your family.
One moment’s carelessness with your phone could mean a lifetime’s misery.
What is clear, however, is that you’re far more taken with the romantic, flirtatious side of this relationship than the potential physical release, if you proceed towards a full-blown affair.You are not unusual in craving a little excitement, and many women will have had similar impulses. Practically every woman I know in a lengthy relationship has had a similar wobble, even if it’s only exchanging a couple of emails with their first love on Friends Reunited.One long married friend was left hyperventilating in ecstasy after a stranger at a party sent her two naughty emails, even though — as she freely admitted — he was the plainest man she had ever met.‘It took every last inch of resolution not to reply, even though I have no intention of going to bed with him,’ she said.Don’t delude yourself: most spouses believe sending a passionate, suggestive text to someone else is tantamount to infidelity.
You have only to remember Tess Daly’s stricken face when it was revealed her husband Vernon Kay had been ‘sexting’ another woman to know how seriously such actions are taken by the betrayed spouse.