Just because it’s theoretically possible doesn’t mean that it’s going to happen to you, and betting the farm that you’re the exception is a very good way to end up without a farm.
The fact of the matter is, even with the most amicable splits, you’re going to need time to mourn, to heal and adjust.
Staying around one another – even when you both swear that you’re over it – almost always means that all you’re doing is prolonging the breaking-up portion of your relationship, which is an excellent way to ensure that you be friends afterwards.
You need to have time apart, without being in contact with each other, in order to move into this new phase of your life.
One of the things that people tend to forget – especially in a long-term relationship – is that you develop new habits and routines that center around having your ex in your life.
Regardless of whether you lived together or lived apart, you will have into certain patterns that are dependent on working in tandem with another person. It’s easier and healthier to start a friendship when you’ve had the time and and distance to get some perspective on your old relationship.
It takes time to relearn how to be on your own again, and the longer you were with them, the longer it’s going to take. Plus, getting over your ex helps avoid the annoying “reconnecting because you want to bang, not be friends” two-step.
Trying to force a friendship too early means you’re going to fall right back into old patterns with your ex and that spells trouble.Most of the time, when you’ve broken up, it’s for a very good reason.Your relationship has just ended and that deserves to be observed.While breaking up certainly doesn’t mean your relationship was a failure, you are facing an ending and those tend to be sad.How do you navigate the complicated waters of a post-break-up friendship? Yes, there are people who say that they were able to slip straight into a friendship after they broke up without missing a beat.