A geek boyfriend will surprise you with his imaginative gifts and out-of-the-ordinary dates and experiences. The kink community has an almost shockingly heavy geek population. Ya’ll are a hot commodity to the right women.) So how do you win over a geek guy? This is especially true to shy, socially inexperienced guys – as geek boys tend to be.It can take some getting used to if you’re used to the typical “flowers and chocolates” type, but it can be so much more rewarding. They love learning and knowledge for it’s own sake; if they have an interest in a subject, they’ll dive into it with great eagerness. If you’re looking to get tied up and spanked, you’ll find geeks are ready, willing and incredibly able. Geek guys will appreciate your love of XKCD and Avatar: The Last Airbender. (Hey, geek guys: want to know what else women like about you? You need to remember that many geeks are so used to rejection that they it; the dialogue in a geek guy’s head is a neverending chorus of rationalizations and worst-case scenarios.
So start taking notes and hold your questions until the end; if some of the advice seems a bit contradictory to what I’ve said elsewhere, just wait. The first question many women would ask is “Why should I be interested in dating a geek? I won’t give you any of the standard fluff answers about how geeks are more loyal and less likely to cheat because they’ll be too grateful (the stereotype of the dateless virgin is outdated…They’ll pick up skill sets just because it interests them. That intellectual curiosity and imagination I mentioned earlier? They have played through every possible outcome in their mind and every single one of them ends with laughing and pointing, occasionally with a drink thrown in their face. When you couple that with the occasionally crippling approach anxiety, nerdboys are unlikely to make the first approach.Knowing how to build a replica of Cyclops’ visor, modding a computer into Portal turret or building Hollywood-quality costumes from Mass Effect may never come in handy… Geeks take interest in a wide variety of subjects and pride themselves in being engaged in the world around them. If you want them to come to you, you are going to have to make it easier on them.One of the most frequently asked questions I get on this blog is from women: “Do you have any advice for helping the girl trying to get the nerd?” The cliche rejoinder of “Yes: show up” is a tempting (and frankly, obvious) response, but it does a real disservice to both men and women.