There's nothing quite like feeling a spark of attraction between you and someone you just met, but lately, we've been wondering whether it's better to date a friend, or at least somebody we've known longer than just a couple of weeks, and who knows more about us than just our name and phone number.
Sure, the transition from friend-to-boyfriend might feel a little weird at first, but we think that the benefits of dating one might just overrule the awkwardness.1. Let's face it, during the first few months of dating someone new, it's easy to hold yourself together and pretend like you don't have a dark side (everybody has one).
You'll get closer to what you both want this way.2. Chances are you've seen one another in relationships and you've probably even met each other's exes. That drunken hookup with your friend's ex-boyfriend?
You can spend your whole life looking for the man who loves you for who you truly are, knows about your oddest behaviors (that collection of ceramic pigs, your obsession, the joy you get out of dancing like a blind monkey) and still accepts you, or you can pick up your phone and call your best guy friend—because he already is that man.It may be weird to start thinking of him in "that way," but it all comes down to two words: shared history. Here are ten reasons to help push you over the edge.1. He knows you've always wanted a big family, and you know he'd like to be married by the time he's 30. There is no fear of the truth, no asking yourself, What if he doesn't want as many kids as I do? These secrets that we would normally be scared to share with a new partner for fear of judgment? And we're also less likely to care about them when we know they're just one small part of someone's past.5. Respect is so vital to a relationship, but sometimes that respect takes time to form.Compromise is important in any relationship, and the best way to compromise is by starting with the truth. You need to get to know each other, learn one another's values and see each other in action. Wouldn't it be great to start a relationship and already have that respect in place? You downplay your insecurities in hope that he won't see you as clingy, and you supress the fact that you occasionally get moody, jealous, or pointlessly angry.As a friend, he will not only be aware of your personal weaknesses, but he will know how to respond to them in a way that is constructive to the relationship and to your desire to improve yourself.
On that same note, you'll be aware of his bad fashion sense, his corny jokes, and his strange fondness for period pieces before you start dating him.