He probably thinks he can either fix his family situation or, at a minimum, protect his mom and brother.We recently went to New York on holiday and he had to lie about that and invent a story of who he was going with.Oddly while we were at Gatwick Airport he saw some gypsies he knew and went white as a sheet.I believe he should live his own life and not feel responsible as he does for his everyone else, so much so in fact that he can hardly function sometimes.It really is should destroying to watch when you love someone as its all so destructive.He has a huge sense of duty towards his family as most gypsies do.I believe he is also completely terrified of being rejected as his mother has made it clear she does not want to know about any of her sons being gay. I myself went through a lot for being gay but i am 33 now, and while I am only 8 years older than my fella, it all seems so unfair and utterly stupid that he has to carry this burden.
By Ramon Johnson Dear Mona, My boyfriend, who is 25 and gay, is not out to his family. His mother does not want him to leave home and says that he can't leave her alone with his father and the youngest son.
I have to be careful what I say about this situation as my fella gets very defensive.
Being gay in the Gypsy world is just not done and is frowned upon.
Deep down I know he knows he should leave home and face up to things, but he thinks his problems are insurmountable as he loves his family.
To make matters worse my fella's younger brother who's 23 is also gay and has tried to come out and admitted to his parents that he is gay but they wont have it, he even moved out and tried living with his boyfriend for a few months but his parents caused so much grief he eventually went home.