Being a wise dater also means recognizing when it’s time to end a relationship and move on.
If both you and the person you’re dating agree that your relationship is casual, informal, and not likely to lead to anything serious, a decision about continuing to go out together is not critical.
If a new relationship is likely to evolve in a negative direction, the earlier you can end it and move on, the better.
There are three reasons for this: First, any developing relationship creates expectations and raises hopes, which contribute to a significant amount of emotional bonding.
I have seen many relationships prolonged that should have ended far earlier—because the two people didn’t have the courage to stop the relationship when it was obviously heading toward stagnation.
As time passes, these relationships become more and more difficult to terminate.
If a decision to discontinue a dating relationship is eventually going to be made, it is best to make it early on, before emotional ties grow to be advanced and complicated.Second, a relationship that is going nowhere should be ended so both individuals can move on to better prospects.When a dating relationship goes on for very long, it often produces strong feelings.Should the relationship end, the person who holds these feelings will be deeply wounded.But if either of you is eager to avoid dead-end relationships and to find a lifelong partner, an early decision about whether to “continue the pursuit” becomes far more important.
A decision to stop dating someone is hard to make, but it should be made as early as possible.