(I’m just looking for an excuse to make it into your dirty drawer) By agreeing to not cross the sex line as a couple, you have the freedom to play with that line. Teasing and anticipation are an under utilized tool in the bedroom.
That push and pull of the new love feeling (NLF) can create an insanely intimate connection.
Maybe you should print it out and keep it in the secret drawer next to your bed (you know the one) so when the sexual pressure cooker is about to blow, you can refer to this.
It feels amazing to finally pull the trigger on real life commitment. We both fully agree and have had a dozen conversations about “Wow – we have a real thing – so not rush this”.
But then when the pressure is on, we don’t really know what the fuck that really means. Do we need to revert to using the baseball analogy?
That is the foundation of a healthy sexual relationship. You don’t have a blueprint or a process to follow and things might get a little weird.
In a normal third-date scenario we know the a prescribed series of events that happen.