Recognize how you're feeling — for example, maybe you're worried that telling parents about a problem will make them disappointed or upset.
But instead of letting those feelings stop you from talking, put them into words as part of the conversation.
You probably talk to friends way more than you talk to your parents. Even if you and your parents have a great relationship, you want to find your own path and make your own choices. Chatting with parents every day not only keeps an existing relationship strong, it also can help a frayed relationship get stronger.
Still, most of us want a parent's help, advice, and support at times. Talking to the adults in your life about everyday stuff builds a bond that can smooth the way for when you need to discuss something more serious. When parents feel connected to your daily life, they can be there for you if something really important comes up.
I'm not proud of what I've done, and you might be mad. As most of us know, talking and listening don't go smoothly every time. Will parents take you seriously, believe what you say, listen to and respect your opinions, and hear you out without interrupting? Some parents are easy to talk to, some are great listeners, and some are harder to approach. Since communication is a two-way street, the way you talk can influence how well a parent listens and understands you.So here are some guidelines to consider when talking to parents: say yes. But gracefully accepting a no can help you get more yeses in the future.But talking to the adults in your life can seem difficult or intimidating — especially when it comes to certain subjects. Maybe you need to break bad news to a parent, like getting a speeding ticket or failing an exam. Even small talk about what's for dinner can keep your relationship strong and comfortable. If you feel your relationship with your parents is strained, try easing into conversations. Talk about how well your little sister is doing in math.Perhaps you're feeling scared or stressed about something.
Or maybe you just really, really want to tell your parents about your new boyfriend or girlfriend, but you don't know how they'll react, how it will feel to tell them, or how to find the words.