But beside my non-existent teen love life, the book had a larger impact that as an adult, I’m only now coming to grips with—damaging expectations of myself, men, and sexuality—beliefs that have cost me love, friendship, and given me a life of shame.
Here are the topics that I have written about so far: What Problems Joshua Harris Acknowledged About How Singles Relate At His Church (But Doesn’t Share on His Website) NEW ENTRY 4/30/08 Starting My Blog: Should I Kiss Dating Goodbye or Kiss That Book Goodbye? Examples of Foolishness That Can Happen With “Kissing Dating Goodbye” NEW ENTRY 4/18/08 Josh Harris’s Shopping Cart Illustration: Josh Harris’s “Updated” View on Courtship/Groups Josh Harris’s View On People Using His Book Legalistically Another Look at Joshua Harris’s “Updated” Views on Kissing Dating Goodbye What Problems Joshua Harris Acknowledged About How Singles Relate At His Church (But Doesn’t Share on His Website) NEW ENTRY 4/30/08 What Another Leader In Sovereign Grace Ministries Teaches About Courtship & Dating: Brett Detwiler A Response to Josh Harris’s 7 “Defects” to Dating Courtship: Extending Parents “Protection” Beyond Home Schooling?
Definition of Terms: Dating, Groups & Courtship What Is “Dating” And What Did Harris Supposedly “Kiss Goodbye?
This is my attempt to share some of my thoughts on “kissing dating goodbye” and “courtship” practices. If nothing else I hope to encourage people to think about the concept and decide for themselves what is most important for them in their situation.
Note: Much of my criticism of the “kissing dating goodbye” approach is from the perspective of a single person in his 20’s and 30’s who was involved in churches where this approach was the norm.
“Kissing dating goodbye” appears to be reactionary and going to one extreme. ” and Courtship/Groups Are People Still Kissing Dating Goodbye?
Lets not make the same mistake in the opposite direction. Kissing Dating Goodbye Is “Harmful”: A Respected Christian Author’s View on Non-Dating/Courtship Did Joshua Harris “Forget” His Own Church’s History With Courtship/Groups? A Favorite Story About The Need to Think for Yourself A Single Man’s Struggle: Does The Courthship/Group Approach Help or Hinder?
My blog pages elaborate on this and asks if “kissing dating goodbye” is appropriate for all ages.
Temporarily “kissing dating goodbye” which could also be called postponing dating might be appropriate especially for younger teenagers.