Any way you cut it, there’s no simple formula to guy/girl friendships, but we can bust a few myths and talk some sense while we’re here.
It’s natural to develop strong feelings for our companions.
This has several implications, the first being that you could potentially end up in a romantic relationship.
The second being, your intimacy with a guy cannot be blamed on your familiar feelings toward him.
It is natural and perfectly okay to fall for your friend (after all, every good marriage is based on a strong friendship! If you and a guy-friend start to have mutual romantic feelings for each other, talk it out and try to intentionally change the trajectory of your relationship.
Otherwise, you’ll end up in a confusing “friendationship” (as one of my girlfriends calls it! If I had a nickel for every time I’ve heard a girl say, “He’s like a brother to me”, I’d probably be able to open my wedding chapel.
Maybe you were the girl who always played with the boys because “girls are so dramatic.” Maybe you were the shy girl with the one, faithful guy-friend.
Maybe you don’t even know how to be “just friends” with a guy.
That sweet boy who was “just a good friend” has gone and broken your heart. Let’s start by saying you’re not the first girl this has happened to. That was written well before the term “friend zone” was coined, back in the days when “brother in Christ” simply referred to fellow Christians, and yet Eponine falls for her best friend and makes “broken-hearted” an understatement.