Do you want your teenager to model their behavior after you?
If so, you owe it to yourself and your kids to build new relationships thoughtfully.
Truth be told, younger children (under age 10) may feel confused, angry, or sad because they tend to be possessive of their parents.
Renowned researcher Constance Ahrons, who conducted a 20-year study of children of divorce, concluded that most children find their parent’s courtship behaviors confusing and strange.
One of the most common questions divorced parents ask me is: When should I introduce my new partner to my children?
also found that teenagers may find open affection between their parent and a partner troubling – so go easy on physical contact in front of them.Rather than planning a long visit, it’s best to have a brief, casual meeting with few expectations.Another important consideration when introducing your kids to a new love interest is their age.While it’s normal to seek solace, companionship, and a sexual relationship after a breakup, it’s crucial to take it slow so you can assess whether this relationship is casual or might be permanent.The number-one thing to keep in mind when deciding when to introduce a new partner to your kids is timing after your divorce. Even if both of you are in love and seem to have a lot in common, breakups are common and kids get caught in the crossfire.
I’ve witnessed many new relationships go sour when a partner is introduced to children too quickly.