Similarly, a mere 10 years ago, it would have been hard to imagine that mobile technology would alter how we find and form connections -- especially for gay men. "gayborhoods" and you're likely to see a much altered scene of people and businesses present, and a lot of male faces buried in the screens of their smartphones. Thus far, no lesbian-centric app has burst onto the scene causing a stir like a few first generation apps for gay men have.
From my perspective, the efforts of gay rights champions and gay men's love affair with technology have coalesced to alter our social lives. I wonder why that is, and whether it will change in the future.
Was it true, in terms of meeting potential dates, that the era of the gay bar and personal computer was ending?
My hunch is that technology has yet to get to a point to support the nuances of connection and communication preferred more often by women.
It is a fascinating and complex difference I'll explore further another time.
In my professional life as a psychologist, I see daily how gay men adapt to, and thrive in, the changing landscape.
I have noted a shift in how my gay male clients described meeting guys for hookups and dates.
Marriage equality, for instance, was virtually inconceivable then.
Until around 2010, my clients would frequently talk about meeting guys at bars or via online dating websites.In my view, it was no coincidence that this conversation started to shift when A) mobile dating apps hit the scene at approximately the same time that B) momentum was building towards major wins in the national equality movement. Though on a personal level it may feel agonizingly slow at times, the changes to American gay life have accelerated so much that it has not only transformed law and federal policy, but also altered nearly every facet of our lives in both concrete and intangible ways.Life for LGBT persons today in many ways doesn't come close to resembling life at the time of the 1969 Stonewall riots.That led me to wonder, as oppressive legal and social structures fall away and our neighborhoods change, how are new ways of forming connections progressing?