Recently I read that there is a simple way to tell if someone is really 'into' us, and not surprisingly, in a material world full of material girls (and boys), it supposedly depends on how much money and how much commitment we are willing to put into that initial meeting or on that all important first date.
Now I don't know if this applies if you've met online, in a supermarket, in a bar or even in a sex club, although I would think that if you had met someone in a sex club, then it's a little too late to be exchanging niceties and polite conversation over a Frappuccino and a chocolate brownie.
If your first date is a 'drinks' date it's best to remember these rules: If you have a special party trick / dance / ability to touch your elbow with your tongue when drunk then you really shouldn't drink on a first date, and finally, never ever order a flaming Sambuca if you've bought your false eyelashes from Poundland or if you've got too much product in your hair. I wouldn't completely write off the chances of romance at lunch, it just depends on what day of the week it is.
If your suitor is a millionaire or unemployed then you'll probably be in with a good chance of having an extra long week day lunch date, but if if they are in a regular 9-5, then you're only going to have time to get soup and half a sandwich.
If someone asks you for coffee then it's certainly going to be a daytime date, and what do daytime dates mean?
I should add that although it was our 'first date' we'd known each other for years, we'd just never got around to really 'knowing' each other.I would never advise getting roaring drunk on a first date, no one wants sick on their shoes or have to witness your tears or violent behaviour before they've even found out your star sign.I remember being asked out for drinks by someone and when I was asked what I was drinking, I answered straight away 'a shot of tequila'.The relationship lasted all of three weeks but boy, was it fun.I'd find it hard to be coy and flirtatious with someone who's already familiar with my ins and outs (or outs and ins, depending on whatever makes you happy).'Coffee is boring and makes your breath smell, drinks are fun and liable to lead to nakedness, lunch is only ever going to work if it's at the weekend because work takes precedence over leisurely lunch breaks, and dinner means you will be expected to get naked (and there are probably drinks involved too)'. Firstly, I'm allergic to it and it makes me behave like I've ingested a speedball. I'll just sit there covered in hives and frantically fidgeting, whilst sweating and chewing my tongue like a junkie waiting for their next fix.
I also find being asked for 'coffee' rather boring and quite frankly, cheap.