But no matter how you may justify dating a man who is "separated," the bottom line is that he's still married.
READ: 10 Good Reasons You Should Wait Until Your 30s to Wed Experts agree that regardless of the situation, you shouldn't get involved with a married man until the divorce is finalized — and here are five reasons why: “If his dating you is a secret to his wife, friends, families and even his acquaintances, then he is not in the phase of separation that is ready to date,” says licensed marriage and family therapist Dr. Not to mention, having to hide the relationship is exhausting and damaging to one’s self-esteem.
If anything, you’re helping him prolong his current marriage situation as you’ve now become a safety net.
Wouldn’t you want to walk around the world freely, as a couple? At some level, he will have difficulty fully respecting you, knowing that you entered into a relationship given his circumstances.And depending on how you both got involved, don’t expect much respect from his friends and family, either.There's nothing wrong with falling in love with a divorcee, but getting involved with a divorced man isn't the same thing as dating a "separated" man.Being separated can mean a host of things: he’s in the process of getting divorced; he and his wife are seeing other people; he and his wife don’t live together; or they’re just staying together for the kids.If you begin the relationship with a lie, it will be extremely hard to develop trust later on,” she adds.
In other words, he may be trying to have his cake and eat it too. Have you already started fantasizing about a future together?