Perhaps you’d like to make the bedroom a smartphone/tablet-free area, so you can concentrate on each other – chatting over the day or having sex together.What about meal times, when you’re watching the TV or going out together?In the pre-internet age, with the phone in the hall way, a phone call after ten o’clock would be an emergency – like a teenager stranded at a party or the death of a family member.Nowadays you can send or receive a text or an email at any time of the day or night.If the phone rang, in the past, it was most probably a close friend or someone calling to arrange a social event (like a match in a golf tournament).Any body in the house might answer and everybody had a rough idea of each other’s friends and engagements.
Today, the message could be from work (who consider it fine to email at weekends and late at night), your bank confirming a new payment or a flirty text from a work colleague.
In effect, the old boundaries have fallen away and anybody can come into your house – metaphorically – at any time and you’re going to be none the wiser if your partner is text cheating.
That brings up a whole range of new dilemmas: In the happiest marriage, it is easy for technology to intrude and come between you and your partner.
So even if your suspicions are ungrounded, it is worth having a debate about when and where it is acceptable to use your smartphone.
I found out my fiancé had been receiving more than friendly texts from a woman that he previously worked with.