Many of the young people call it "Hanging out together" and claim that it has nothing to do with love or affection--so they claim.
I would say that once it becomes apparent, to any member of the church, that another member/attendee is becoming involved in a romantic and/or love relationship with an unbeliever, that they must go to the person as step one of the Matthew 18 process, and then follow the rest of the process if necessary."Here at Grace, we believe that the Bible teaches that believers should only marry other believers. Thus, we would strongly discourage any believer from pursuing a dating relationship with a non-believer.
I have not seen any Church apply church discipline to the dating of non-believers.
I suppose because it's hard to define "dating" these days.
A "yoke" was a farm implement that bound two animals together so that they could work together as a team.
Modern translations remove the "yoke" and translate the intent of the verse, warning believers, "Do not be bound together with unbelievers." Does this apply to marriage?
The short answer is "no." However, it is good to examine the scripture behind the answer to understand it more completely, including why such a marriage is a bad idea.
The usual answer given the believer is from 2 Corinthians: Do not be bound together [unequally yoked] with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness?
In keeping with Matthew 18, we would confront a believer who is involved that an "unequally-yoked" dating relationship.
If they refused to repent (and terminate the relationship), we would continue down the path of church discipline.
[Some of this, of course, would depend on the age of the individual in question--regarding what role their parents should play in the discipline process.] How much time is allotted during the process would be considered on a case-by-case basis, according to the discretion of the elders involved.
We would try to include, in the confrontation process, as much biblical counseling as possible--so that the believer in question could be shepherded so as to see why dating an unbeliever is such a big deal.
I have received a few emails from Christians (and even one from a non-Christian) asking if it is okay for a Christian to date or marry an unbeliever.
Usually, by the time the question is asked, the relationship has gone far enough that a negative answer is going to be difficult to accept, even if it is the right answer.