There is so much you want to know about the person across the table from you, and yet so little you can directly ask. We took Ok Cupid's database of 275,294 match questions—probably the biggest collection of relationship concerns on earth—and the 776 Love, sex, a soulmate, an argument, whatever you're looking for, we'll show you the polite questions to find it.
We hope they'll be useful to you in the real world.
I also know that if I had to wade through hundreds of thousands of user-submitted questions like these verbatim examples: I would go fucking insane.
But I think that’s not how love functions, even at the very simple level.
I think the English term is ‘endearing foibles’ — an elementary ingredient in love.
You cannot ever fall in love with the perfect person.
There must be some tiny small disturbing element, and it is only through noticing this element that you say, ‘But in spite of that imperfection, I love him or her.'” Fair enough. Zizek thinks that the way forward for romantic technologies lies not in a less technological approach, but a more technological approach — or at least a stranger technological approach. I come with some horrible thing — I saw it, it’s called something like stimulating training unit — it’s basically a plastic vagina, a hole.” Dare we examine where this scenario goes? They simply insert her electric dildo into his stimulating training unit, and voilà, “the machines are doing it for us, buzzing in the background, and I’m free to do whatever I want, and she.” With full tribute paid to the superego by their vulgar devices, “we have a nice talk; we have tea; we talk about movies.
Zizek calls this online dating’s problematic “aspect of self-commodification or self-manipulation.” “When you date online,” he says, “you have to present yourself there in a certain way, putting forward certain qualities.