Culturally, I see a lot of women who say, “I saved myself, and therefore I deserve the Hollywood sex. ” And they become angry and frustrated and deem that it’s also not a priority.
Some can warm up much quicker, the more in touch with your body you are.
But that’s where some women can deem that they’re broken and not want to invest in sex anymore, and decide it’s not important because they have had bad experiences, so they make it not a priority, or avoid confronting what’s not working.
But when a man doesn’t know how to help get a woman aroused in a way that she appreciates, it makes for dull sex. It doesn’t feel good.” I’ve worked with women who’ve said, “Well, I’ve tried, and I feel nothing.” And I ask, “Well, what does ‘tried’ mean?
Sisters Kristin Hodson and Alisha Worthington are BYU grads, have degrees in social work and are active members of the LDS Church. Under that moniker, they answer callers’ sex questions on X96’s (Real Intimacy Book.com). 200 South, Salt Lake City), they’ll be presenting a “tastefully sexy” workshop for women called On the Edge of the Bed. We’re trying to make it accessible to talk about, a bit lighthearted. We’re professionals, but you don’t have to take this stuff so seriously. Not wanting to try new things—and not even having a window to talk about it.
The two say their evolution into Utah’s resident LDS sex experts came naturally; they were raised by parents who encouraged critical thinking and answered all questions. It doesn’t have to be so heavy, weighty, sacred every time. We get these same themes presented in a variety of ways.
I think most of the men reading this would be like, “Yes, I do need it.” It’s a little easier sometimes for women to put it lower on the list. It’s also what sets your relationship apart from any other relationship out there.
The bonding hormone that you experience during sex is called oxytocin, and men primarily experience that through ejaculation. When people are dating, there is a ton of erotic energy.
I think a lot of men would love to know how to please their wives, really help her feel aroused—and vice versa.
A lot of women would really love to have this experience.