I started finding pictures that he had - some very interesting photos."So Christine installed a software package called e Blaster by Spectorsoft on the computer that she and her husband shared.The program kept track of all activity on the computer including all e-mails, instant messages, Web sites visited and even every keystroke made from that computer.Then he finally said, 'well, I'm just looking.' And this is a man who has always been very religious, very reputable."When asked if there is any way cyber-affairs can be harmless, Dr. If we make it the same as an affair then men will say, why not talk to them, why not date them, why not have sex with them?But she would not have been legally allowed to put it on her husband's computer at work or any other computer that she did not own.
I feel like the software and computers is like looking in your kid's diary.
You can find out by doing that you can find out by object serving and you've got a much stronger case to say, 'look, I notice you're spending a lot of time at work.' I guess having the evidence may be helpful."Christine says though she was aware of the problems in her marriage, she needed the extra proof. I was curious of what was going on because he would deny a lot of things and say it was nothing.
Is it actually adultery and what should you do if you suspect that your spouse is having an online affair? She says what tipped her off was, "Long hours on the computer in his office.
And when I'd walk in, he'd be switching so I couldn't see what he was doing. And then I had gotten a picture sent to me from my sister and I'm not very computer literate, and I was checking the computer to find out where I put the picture when I downloaded it.
Reports were e-mailed to her, and that's how she caught him. I think his words were, 'loose women in our area;' and also foursomes. I started paying a little more attention and made copies of everything that was going on and then I set him up and I pretended I was somebody with a different name and so I was able to have a conversation with him for quite a while that I found out exactly what he was doing, what he was saying."She's now in the middle of a divorce.