Here are some dating rules that all confident girls should ignore.
Hell, that all girls should ignore: Let's start with the basics. While online dating and apps have definitely equaled the playing field a bit, I still know a lot of women that think in heterosexual dynamics it's the fella who should do the asking out. Yes, the disagreement comes from the fact that the only way I ever go on a date ever is when I initiate it (I don't think I've been asked out since the 90s), but that shouldn't change anything.
(Did you know that you should always wear a full face of makeup on a run?
Or that you shouldn't accept a date if he asks after the third Sunday of the fourth month of the lunar cycle? But unfortunately some dating rules are alive and well.
I've said it before and will say it again: Why is inequality something we should be nostalgic for? My flatmate is always shocked if I text a guy after a first date saying I had a nice time, because apparently I should be waiting until he texts me.
But I know that sometimes I'm not very romantic and that comes across, and I also know men can get nervous and self-conscious too— almost like they're people or something. Unless something is time-senstive just message when you feel like it and don't go all Mac Gyver on why it took them seven hours and five minutes instead of of five hours and seen minutes to reply.
They've never been something I've conformed to, which I would like to say in some statement about women or autonomy or heteronormativity, but it's more just that any interaction I have with a man looks very much like the Someone Like You butter dance— by which I mean there's a lot of heart, but there's also a lot of butter.
I have to say it's better when you're not so hung up on how things should be.
Be bold and give it a try, it's so much better than waiting for things to happen to you! Yes, if you're in a longterm relationship maybe one of you isn't working and is contributing in another way, so there's a reason only one of you is paying.So I don't think there's anything wrong in being encouraging and straightforward. There's this really unfortunate trend of women being so scared of looking 'crazy' or like 'that girl' that they end up burying it if they're not feeling OK about something or want something. Yes, of course you should be your goofy, amazing, weird self, and have confidence in dating, but as I've gotten back into dating over the last few year I've been surprised to find how many "rules" there are.Yes, we've all pretty much moved away from The Rules, thank goodness— I had to it read in a gender studies class and it made me want to remove my eyeballs.But in early stages of a relationship, I don't think there is a reason for a man to pay.
It's not an adorable tradition, it's a throwback to when women couldn't pay for anything and we were basically property.