Sometimes the unicorn is expected to not develop any emotional attachment and is strictly there for a sexual relationship (equally distributed to both members of the dyad) and/or is prescripted as a secondary. John wants a single, attractive woman who will love and have sex equally with him and his wife, but not interfere with their marriage, move in together, help raise their kids but not have any of her own, and not have any other partners.
This term is used as a reminder that bipoly women are people with their own desires, needs, and pre-existing lives, and not fantasy figures or pets. He's looking for something that doesn't exist - he's looking for a unicorn!
And then there's sex...love's popular intimate counterpart; a passionate array of physical acts. Are their powers just as strong if the duo is split up?
Dana [for purposes of anonymity, last names will not be used] thinks so. Not the raunchy, 1970s, silk shirt open-to-the-navel, cue-the-cheesy-porn-music type you might be picturing, though.
He's level-headed, obliging and a dedicated companion to his long-time girlfriend.
Though his lifestyle is a private part of his life, he opens up honestly to debunk some misconceptions.
The term is often used to be dismissive of a couple seen to be only superficially polyamorous.
Love is an emotion desired by some and avoided by others.
Colloquial; Synonym for hot bi babe or HBB, often derogatory, condescending, or ironic.
A bisexual person, usually though not always female, who is willing to join an existing couple, often with the presumption that this person will date and become sexually involved with both members of that couple, and not demand anything or do anything which might cause problems or inconvenience to that couple.
Dana says there are a lot of websites marketing the salacious aspects of swinging to single guys.
"They'll show very graphic scenes and say this is what it's all about, but it's not that way," he explains.
With more than 20 years of experience living the lifestyle under his belt, Dana is the director of Club ESP, or Extra Sensual People, one of Nova Scotia's swinger's clubs.