Best advice I can offer you is dont make any one speed dating or singles activity a litmus test or do-or-die mission.
Simply look at the events you attend, as an opportunity to meet lots of interesting people and make new single friends.
Visit our Even though attending a speed-dating event is about meeting new people, everyone has their own idea about what that means to them. Would you be open to a friendship centered around a common interest, like a sport or hobby?
How far are you willing to travel for a relationship?
Everyone at the event is focusing all his or her energy, meeting a special someone. "Negative thinking" brings to you negative results and negative life experiences. Don't dwell on how things went in the last dating round or whom you'll pair with next. You've arrived at the speed-dating or singles event. A word of caution here is to be careful not to use too much of a good thing.
You can't change the past; and it's best not to live too far into the future. As you look around the room you begin to wonder if you have anything in common with your fellow daters. If your flattery goes the route of "over the top," it'll probably will result in creating a major turn-off instead of a turn-on.
Take a deep breath and find comfort in the knowledge that your goals, are very much like everyone else that has attended for the event. Look for a single thing that stands out to make your compliment. Maybe its the cute side smirk they have, or the way they giggle, their great voice or those gorgeous blue eyes.
The evening is designed to be fun and relaxed, but your first impression will inevitably be how you look. But a favorite pair of black slacks and a nice blouse and nice heels works too. Unique, interesting jewelry or accessories can be a great conversation starter too! According to the scientists, most attractive and stimulating color for a woman to wear is RED, which actually increases blood flow. Guys who frequently wear blue are "stable, faithful and always there." The "blue guy" is a fabulous candidate for a long-term relationship --- someone who's dependable, monogamous and can match his own clothes. ) Go to the event with an open mind and be positive--keep your mind open. Recognize it, welcome it and flirt a little...(Then dig a little deeper to see what else there is). After all...isnt love and affection a process of chemistry as well? Learning to listen and be interested in the other person in front of you is vital if youre to have a strong connection. (EX: Religion / Politics) Do not tell lies or exaggerate stay honest Stay away from racy jokes or questions that could be sexual in nature Don't tell too much very personal information about your yourself; (EX: how terrible you were treated in your last relationship, or your personal finances.) Remember to keep it simple: Fun, positive and confident is attractive.
And you only have one chance to make a first impression. (And mimics attraction.) AND according to those studies ... It's pretty exciting to attend a speed-dating event. If you have read the book "The Secret" you know the main message in the book is "positive thinking" brings to you positive results. Compared to meeting people over the internet, one of the real advantages speed dating and single events offers is the ability to meet live and in person. As you begin each round of mini-dates, remember to stay focused. Save any effort to "catch up or regroup" with friends after the event is over. Let's face it, flattery is hard to resist - especially when it's sincere or novel.
I'm sure at some point youll find yourself really enjoying the evening for its own sake...going out for the night and having FUN!
When a few dates come out of it, they will only be a wonderful bonus. Are you looking for something light like occasional dates or something serious and long term?
Thinking about this beforehand can help inspire topics of conversations and questions.
And ultimately, it may help you to select your matches; those with whom you'd like to follow-up with. Shirt, Tie and Jacket not necessary; but if you feel comfortable dressed up it won't hurt! dresses and skirts are attractive and feminine if you feel comfortable wearing one do it! Maybe one thing to remember is to end with a smile.