This is something that I think is inherently wrong with online dating.It’s too hard to get to know someone, and far too easy to dismiss people, online.
After much internal dialogue and deliberations with colleagues and friends, I said yes. We’re madly in love, and I’m quite confident in saying that I’ve met my person. I always assumed that was bullshit, but I get it now.
Allow me to bestow upon you a few things I’ve picked up along the way- these are more or less things I’ve learned about myself, but there could be truth in it for others.
To give you some context, The relationship doesn’t look exactly like I always thought it would.
For starters, he’s a few years my junior, and has two young children- if we would have met online I probably would have swiped left, based on these two characteristics alone. Which brings me to Jane’s lessons learned #1- Many of the things you think are important will not actually matter, when you meet the right person.
First, thanks so much to everyone who has taken the time to read and comment over the past 8 months or so- long story short, after years of terrible dates and mediocre relationships with men who weren’t quite suited for me despite meeting my mental checklist (most of which were a product of online dating) I ended up meeting someone at work!