Or in the bright light of morning, just a room away from the kids playing Nintendo. Many more have one hand on the keyboard and one on themselves (typing lots of words with no Ks or Ls).
Computer screens across America are glowing with lusty self-portraits and requests, aimed at strangers whose “handles” read like vanity license plates: Cumgood. Others do their foreplay on-line, then consummate alone, after signing off (paying for the arousal, coming for free). Is that really a 14-year-old girl in hot pants you just seduced–or a Hulk Hogan look-alike in a tattered t-shirt surrounded by rug-rats?Maybe it’s actually a college guy with a pocket protector and acne, or a bored Manhattan couple slumming.Cybersex is, of course, “safe sex,” a play space with virtually no serious consequences for mistakes.It’s the chance to explore ourselves and the dynamics of intimate relating, without the fear of hurting self or others, that all of us should have had as adolescents–and almost none of us did.For some practitioners, cybersex is an amusing adjunct to satisfying sexual relationships, monogamous or otherwise.
In that sense, they can take it or leave it; it doesn’t touch them deeply, and they can easily let it go if they want to.